My all time favorite holiday story is Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer. The best rendition is the 1965 stop motion animated TV special. It is still going strong and shows us what we need to know to be psychologically flexible.
Rudolph of course is the young reindeer with the shiny nose. He wants to be like the other reindeer but his shiny red nose appears to be getting in the way of things. So what happens? His parents try to cover it up so he can fit in . It doesn’t work and the herd is not kind. Even Santa does not want to stamp his ticket.
It doesn’t get much worse than being rejected by the herd, Rudolph sets off on a journey. He is joined by Hermey, an aspiring dentist trapped in an elf’s body. They form a shared purpose and Hermey declares , “Let’s be independent together!”. They are two outliers out on an adventure, both realizing they want to be who they are. They go on a hero’s quest, meet up with prospector Yukon...
This guide has been over 10 years in the making and was developed from the daily interactions of teachers and learners. It allows you to dive into social-emotional learning with no additional training or expertise. That is because it quickly establishes an engaging point-of-view with a simple diagram and a few respectful questions. It is for the busy professional, youth worker, assistant, or other specialist working to make a difference.
The ACT Matrix Guide transforms social-emotional learning by building self-awareness, self-regulation, and prosocial behavior in real-time with no need for downloads or manuals. It is meant to be used alongside whatever you do that works. With a little practice, you will help others move toward shared purposes, valued actions, and common goals. You will reduce your stress and spend more time influencing and less time managing.
It is available through National Professional Resources, a leader in resources for busy professionals. ...
This is a special webinar where I model how to use the ACT Matrix with students, staff, and others in our current and future challenges. You will learn how to add psychological flexibility and resilience to the toolkit of those you serve. Psychological flexibility is the cornerstone of mental health and social-emotional learning.
The ACT Matrix is a simple way of visualizing the cognitive-behavioral approach to values-based behaviors known as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Training ( ACT). Dr. Kevin Polk developed the matrix as a way of quickly engaging people in a collaborative learning process. We need psychological flexibility now more than ever!
At the time of this post, we are at the beginning of the national response to the coronavirus pandemic. Businesses and schools have shuttered, and we are social distancing to give medical experts and scientists the time they need to help us weather this unprecedented time.
Educators and helpers are busy learning and ramping up how to serve students and others online. We are all looking for what works to engage all learners and help them negotiate this new and mostly uncharted territory.
This video shows you my process for using the ACT Matrix to engage others online. The way you join is not to tell them but to show them the point of view so they experience the process of psychological flexibility and creativity.
If you want to engage learners both online and in-person and create powerful social-emotional learning experiences, the ACT Matrix is a game-changer. I have a free email training that can be accessed on the Evolving Solutions homepage. Dr. Kevin Polk and I also...
Much is made in educational circles these days about social-emotional learning and intelligence (SEL). Schools everywhere are scrambling to address the social and emotional needs of youth, developing and implementing curriculums, and creating policies. The workplace is also getting on board as more and more businesses are realizing that the key to a successfully run organization is having employees who can solve problems independently and possess solid interpersonal skills.
I think schools, however, get a bad rap. Increasingly, they are asked to do more with less. Everyone wants our students to achieve their full potential. Educators are faced with the awesome and daunting task of providing learners with the skills for success. There is a lot of emphasis on what we need to teach but very little on how to do it. How do you engage, inspire and lead students through the maze of stuff that is thrown at them and help them make sense of it? How do you help them retain what is...
October 10 is World Mental Health Day. According to the World Federation for Mental Health, it is a day to “celebrate awareness for the global community in an empathetic way, with a unifying voice, helping those feel hopeful by empowering them to take action and to create lasting change.”
My contribution to the cause is to use and show people the ACT Matrix so they can promote their own mental health and show it to others.
To do that, you can do the mental health loop.
Draw this diagram, otherwise known as the ACT Matrix.
Ask yourself, “Who is important to me?” Recall your important people and jot them down in the lower right. Next ask, “What kinds of yucky stuff (like fear and anger) shows up inside of me and gets in the way of what I want to be doing?”. Jot that down in the lower left. Now ask yourself, “well, what do I do to get away from that yucky stuff...
Do you have difficult people in your life? ( I see you nodding your heads up and down and a few of you are holding your head in your hands ).
The Prosocial matrix is a great tool to defuse difficult people who can get you down from time to time. In this video you will learn how to set up a very flexible way to have difficult conversations and maintain your sanity.
This is a safe approach with no harmful side effects:)
Appropriate for all ages, shapes and sizes.
We are in the middle of a heat wave. Hot has taken on new levels of meaning.
I returned home last night to discover the air conditioning unit in our home that has been serving us well has succumbed to the blistering temperature. Our HVAC expert is performing emergency services all over town and we must wait out turn.
A story immediately forms inside me, a story of misfortune and loss and a longing for coolness and comfort. My internal misery meter inches upward. I can notice it showing up in me as well as my wife and our children. Then I pause, take stock and think of ways to adapt to the inevitable.
Break out the fans, rearrange the sleeping quarters and watch a little TV. My niece shows up after working later in the evening and we all catch up for awhile before turning in. Discomfort is along for the ride but not driving the car.
I get up early and take my son to his summer job as a golf course groundskeeper. He notices he doesn’t...
This is a webinar I developed along with Donna Read, a fellow Prosocial Matrix Trainer.
If you want to know how to assess where your organization stands and how to influence teams toward healing and change, I look at how to apply Frederic Laloux's Reinventing Organization book and research to the Prosocial Matrix process and create powerful contexts for change.
Let me get real here. We all want a life, a job, a relationship that is problem free , or at least something pretty darn close to it .
Reality informs us that life is not a constant state of ecstatic wonder. On the way to valued and vital learning, working and living, we encounter problems. All kinds of problems.
So why is it that that we spend so little time learning what works for becoming a successful problem solver?
Problems will continue to present themselves in our lives but they don't have to bog us down. Creative problem solving is a skill and one that anyone can learn with some practice.
The Prosocial Matrix is a great tool to generate solutions that work in any setting. Check out my webinar and find out what it takes boost your team's problem solving skills to the next level.